Be still my heart: trickybonmot: Do you ever think it’s funny that we have our fanfics so…
Do you ever think it’s funny that we have our fanfics so carefully beta’d and brit-picked, but it is in no way standard practice to have…
No, because for almost any conceivable sexual act, for every person out there who says, “That’s impossible, you can’t do that during sex!” there’s someone else who has actually done it. A guy who can have multiple orgasms without losing his erection? They exist! Having anal sex without lube? Yep, talked to a couple of people who have (not recommended that you try this at home, but it’s possible for some people). Orgasm just from anal intercourse? Yes, some can!
Just like women range from wild, gushing wet orgasm-generators to being unable to orgasm at all or even being entirely uninterested in the idea, men have a range of abilities and tastes when it comes to sex. But most people who are asked for feedback can only tell you what works for them and people they know, so this is really one of those areas where research is called for (which, mind you, can include talking to people you know, but shouldn’t end there).
What’s really productive is taking a good look at the span of sexual experience and capability, and building that aspect of your character along with the others. It’s fun to make them not just a dream machine, but an individual with their own orientations, tastes, and experiences (or lack thereof, in some cases, but if you’re writing a story about sex with a highly inexperienced character, it goes better if you have an idea of what they will like once they try it).
The BBC Has Ruined My Life: emmagrant01: Be still my heart: trickybonmot: Do you ever think it’s…