Well, primarily I just like John on the bottom. ^_^ Nothing wrong with how you enjoy your smut. It’s all fair game. And after all, the whole top/bottom thing is a fantasy, really, when you’re talking about it like it’s an orientation. Mostly, human beings navigate their sexual encounters based on what sounds fun and pleasurable to them that day, and furthermore there are lots of sexual activities that render the entire debate irrelevant. Frotting, for example, or mutual handjobs.
(Well, it’s not how real human partners necessarily navigate their sexual encounters. It absolutely is a societal expectation of how male/female sexual roles should work. But I think that societal expectation may be why so many female slash fans, in particular, get hung up on the top/bottom thing. We’re reflecting/dealing with/exploring the collection of perceptions, expectations and assumptions we’ve accumulated from society vs. the ones that we own as personal beliefs and preferences.)
Now, Dom/sub, that’s a different matter—and one that the show brought up for us when they invited a professional Dominatrix on board, so it’s fair game. If you think about it, Dom/sub really has four different basic orientations: Dom, sub, switch, and non-participant. Because there are lots of people who don’t power-kink.
(I’ll put the rest of this under a cut, for those who really don’t want to be bothered with the ‘who’s on top’ debate.)
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